But this is just the beginning. there are two more traps, waiting for you to sabotage your efforts. here is the second reason for being more vulnerable to criticism

The second code means that you are more prone to criticism while weak. “Weak” may mean anything that makes you less powerful than the others. For example, if you earn less money than your neighbour, you might feel weaker, less important.

Is it really true? I will give you some simple tips of beating this negative belief.

1. Try to use the differences to your advantage – every situation is an opportunity to learn and become stronger. Being around the environment that is different than you gives you the opportunities unknown for the people knowing the field A-Z. Your new approach might show tham that something was mised andthat they are not perfect. Therefore, they have no right o demand perfection from you.

2. Use your inner power to show that you are ok. If you intend to be the winner, taking challenges is inevitable. Sometimes you might think that nothing can be done and the challenge overwhelms you. Anthony Robbins have analysed the 10 emotional challenges. Being overwhelmed is also among them.  Justthink what indeed is necessary to accomplish and try to pursue a tiny goal, concerning the challenge. Even the small victory will encourage you to tackle the more severe aspects of the problem.

3.Learn more about their communication.  It might not be criticism, but the an attempt to hide… weakneses. Moreover, criticism may be just the way to drwa your attention on some issues that are ignored.

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There might be various reasons why people criticaze the extreme differences in the others. Today i will draw your attention to something different.Iis it really stupid or unappriopriate to have independent views on a given issue? If yes what can you do to preserve your right to the freedom of speach or expressing yourself?

The truth is that you will never escape from criticism, even if you follow comformism and agree with the standards, typical for the most of population. What can you do?

• 1. Start a war, in which you will prove your rightenousness.
• 2. Surrender, but act in conspiracy – which is also a war.
• 3. Defend your borders in an assertive way
• 4. Escape from the toxic environment for a short time.

Only one of the attitudes listed above is implemented by the genuie winners.The real victor uses some methods to minimze impact of the negative feedback. I will reveal you a bit of the winner’s wisdom. Try the following tips anc check what has changed:

Find your assets. They often might be unknown to your criticant. Being aware of your strong points will help you to defent or ignore unjustified criticism. If you think that none of your assets are relevent in the particular context, I have a good news for you. Use the potential assets, which are not discovered by the critical environment. You can also ask about the reason for criticizing you.

List all your strong points in the winner’s book. Then think which of them are neglected. maybe there is time to use them more efficiently? Experiment and check the results. you might crack another code of the winner.

There are not all the methods, used by the genuie winners. I wouldn’t like to overwhelm you wuth too much workload. Hence try the today’s recipe and soon you will read more about dealing with negative feedback, because your views are controversial.

I don’t encourage you to be radical or start another era of fanaticism. But you have the right to perform your ideas if they do not hace a direct destructive impact on the people around you. Morever, thinking in a given way does not mean that you will execute your brain’s work. You can also apply your views in a praticular context, which doesn’t mean that all the people involved will be affected. And finally – it is also relevant what the wring means to you or the other party. i will also duscuss this issue soon.

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There are specific groups of people who are especially vulnerable to criticism.  Just look at your friend, who becomes annoyed or loses control, while the other person is staying calm. If you find yourself among them it doesn’t mean that your life is worse. You can always change your life, it’s never too late.In my next posts I will show you how to win, even being criticized. But before you learn who is the most vulnerable, find what you and Kate might have in  common.

She always had a lot of new ideas how to run a business. Sometimes they were controversial and good for a pioneer. Even if she knew that new project means more expenses and is unpredittable. But Kate needed some advice and feedback. Many people commented her latest blog post, but there was one problem. After having read all the opinions kate got even more confused and very overwhelmed. Why? Because people have showed doubts, some were sceptical. There were very few empowering comments. But does it mean that trying new ideas is wrong?

Kate was aware that there are businesses who can afford innovations and will not suffer financial breakdown. As she was a start-up, partners warned her about the danger. She was advised to make the SWOT analysis, the same as while starting her business. It was sad that people were finding mainly weaknesses when she intended to take the challenge.

Kate has just wanted to learn new things which was a big challenge for her. Kate wanted to use her creativity as the tool. However, no learning is easy and funny. Even going yo school you will be criticized, writing the first letter during English or solving a task during Maths. The key is attitude. Kate knew that being concerned about negative feedback is a stalemate.

Can you find herself in kate’s shoes? If you read the three paragraphs between the lines, you could find the three or even more categories of people,who are more vulnerable to criticism than an average person. Even if your life is different, there is at least one person that you konw, struggling with Kate’s challenges.

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Are you awere of your real addictions? Smoking itself can be just the iceberg tip of the other, deeper patterns of behaviour which are real addiction. Think of the person who is smoking because of stress. You probably know at least one person who cannot handle stress without a drink or a fag. If they had an alternative of stress relief, smoking would not be necessary.

What are your own habits? Be sincere with yourself.  Whad do you do very often, automatically? Is it bringing you to happiness and life victory or are you struggling with your life? make a list and check it regularny. It might be amazing how many things are habits in your life. But this is not all yet.

Which of your habits are destructive, holding you back? Review your list again. Congratulations if you hace spotted  at least one destructive pattern . You have cracked the first code and have taken the first step to win the pattern. If you couldn’t define your destructive patterns of behaviour,  I will give you some hints.

Everything that holds you back, but performed regularly is your personal addiction . Just think of automatic criticism, obsessive worries over a small issue, playing computer games for a long time. These are just very few examples of destruftive habits.

Do you always behave in the addictive way? Even if you are addicted there are the times of various intensity. If your life is more auspicious, there might be little need to use the bad habit. It means that the reasons for addictions don’t exist. How to spot your priodical addictions?

If you temporarily satisfy the needs for addiction in other way. let’s say smoking. You might find a more relaxing environment or be too much involved to want smoking. Some patterns of your behaviour occur occasionally, let’s say during a festive time because of social impact on you. Others will be more intense whe you are  under pressure.

Sit down today and analyze all your automatic patterns of behaviour. It now it is a hard work for you  to clarify the bad habits  use the winner’s book to record your actions.

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How much freedom dlo you really have? Is the end of fair play inevitable and cannot be saved? One of the scenario might lead to the stage that the stronger has all the tools to crush the weakr. I wouldn’t like to deal with politics, I’m trying to keep this blog neutral. You can agree or disagree with the idea presented today.

But what is going on and is being planned may lead to unfair game – whatever it means. Money might decide who is right and who is a criminal – just because the more influecial will create the new rules. It is not only about the law, it is about the way the law is executed and who is entitled to define the potential crime.

Imagine that you are sued out of the blue, with no right to appeal. You have always been a law abidnig citzen, you wher even up-to-date with the latest legislation… Morever, imagine even the worse scenario: that you cannot check the updates, possibly making you a criminal. – They also might be ambiguous and so frequent that interpretation is like survival in the jungle.

Think what freedom mean to you. Have you got your own rules that should be respected by others – even the politicians? Are you able to exacute them in the same way as the others can execute yorus? Share your opinion and leave the comment.

1. Organize your notes.
‘Have you ever ever puzzled how come back the globe these days is aware of thus a lot of regarding past great achievers? True, individuals took day trip to check them, but a heap of the stories and details that we have a tendency to know regarding them could only have return from themselves.” by Amie Erickson

To make it simpler. You can get lost in the forest of your own notes. But there is one more thing. Think of all the leaders that you are following. Your journal might be full of their quotas, thoughts and tips – even if you have paraphrased them. But there is no hierarchy. Seeking the item that you need right now might become a torture. Therefore find the way to distinguish the various issues.

More than that, some theories might be contradictionary. You might thing which  is the right one and if you really identify with the author’s viewpoint.Find the third solution, your own. See what you could add to their tips. Amy says that “They are a translation of their thoughts on to paper”. You can also choose other median the traditional notebook if it is  more comfortable for you.

2. Think of the content. You might wonder what to write about following your masters of self-development. Even one of them presents so many interesting ideas. But here you can find some suggestions:

“They kept journals and recorded their observations and their feelings. For you, a journal is more than a map of your journey. It helps to clarify thought, to think additional clearly and to truly see where your thinking could not be thus good.

So think of the journal as of the map. It may be the map of your relationship, of the current week or your majour goals. You probably know that the same thought is usually updated, sometimes the next day. Updating and making notes of the new thoughts will be easier if you mark your ideas properly.

3. Treat your journal as the record of your progress. When you check the notes in a month’s time, you might want to add something or to comment the results. You will also see your achievements, riting the journal for a long period of time. This is because “once you record one thing it becomes additional than a fleeting thought”.

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But there are more opportunities which you can take. I will present one of them today.  But first let’s chceck the real reason for using the new tool.

1. The present kind of journal is boring and needs hard work to be kept up-to date. Think of all the organizers – in the real world and on your PC. How often do you stop updating them? What was the reason which have mede you more annoyed and discoureged to conntinue the record? Brainstorm new ideas of your best journal and the necessary action that you need to take.

2. The wrong tool. If you used a sophisticated spreadsheet or mind-map software, making notes have not been easier. You might use the wrong format,  size and colours of the type. No one likes writing on too big or too small peice of paper. The same applies to the choice of the right window on your computer or while surfing the Internet. You can even hve the wrong pen, keyboard or mouse. Then your hands may be tired very fast and this will not help you to create great artwork.

3. You have no purpose. Even the best tool will be useless if you are not motivated to use it. I could present you even a hundred options of recording your victories. But I can’t help if you don’t want tot ake action. hence note the biggest readon for starting the winner’s jurnal, right now.

4. Evaluate why you don’t want to run the winner’s journal. What is the worst thing that might happen, holding you back from recording your victories? It might take only a minute each day and after a year you can be proud of 366 new accomplishments. Is it too difficult to find only one victory per day? If yes, choose a bit easier goal, let’s say one per week. But always update your scored vistories regularly.

5. Evaluate your current journal. You might even have the winner’s journal, but it is neglected and you lose motivation to continue updates. Time has come to analyze the reasons. Firstly, check if you like the journal at all. Is there anything that you can ammend.

For example, just adding one colour, using a new pen will set you back on the track. What about the style of your notes? If your victories look like a medicore episodes, your motivation will fade very soon. Start using grand words, even exaggerating. Your journal is not just for writing it, you use this tool as yoru ebst friend – during the time of crisis.

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Depending on your goals, only one from the 3 terms will be best applicable. Let’s take “self-improvement“. What does it really mean

According to Wiki it “is a self-guided improvement economically, intellectually, or emotionally—often with a substantial psychological basis.” As you can see, self-help is not only about finding the solution, which you may need the most. The point is how to use the solution for your best purpose, to make even bigger progress. You can find other people who share your ideas and challenges.

“There are many different self-help movements and each has its own focus, techniques, associated beliefs, proponents and in some cases, leaders.” It is even more important that “self-help often utilizes publicly available information or support groups where people in similar situations join together”. Just check online, and you can find the people gathered around the most prominent techers, like Anthony Robbins or Stephen Covey.

You yourself probably know at least one famous self-help guru, but you can also find the real people sharing your ideas. Just looking around your own, local community, Counlsellers and local self-help groups are only few examples. The self-help leaders may organize workshops and you can even find the Success Club – not only for business development.What self-help organizations have you found yourself? How are you involved?

Despite talking about the same topic, each of the self-help leaders has his own, unique system and focuses on different issues.It might be time management or self-awareness. You will use the method best fitting your own situation. Depending on your learning style, some methods will be betther than others. The books are also based on the author’s unique experience.If you started the winner’s journal today, in the future your wisdom can be helpful s you can always find something neglected by the leaders.

Now think what decides about your choice of a self-help book? Sometimes you might follow their marketing, but more often you can find out that a  given style matters.If you meet the elader in the real world, their books are even more valued.

Self-help is also about development and improvement. “According to the APA Dictionary of Psychology, potential benefits of self-help groups that professionals may not be able to provide include friendship, emotional support, experiential knowledge, identity, meaningful roles, and a sense of belonging.”

Hence the books or groups encourge you to try new challenges, to experiment. From this percpective you develop some skills.

Now think for a while. Which aspect of self- is more important for you?

• - help, finding a solution
• - development of your own skills – because of the book’s inspiration or your own life experiences
• - improvement of the techniwues learned, together with your own life?

Today Kate is taking her first steps to win this year’s challenges. Some days of 2012 are over and you have probably noticed that some goals are harder to achieve than you assumed. Kate’s challenge cay also match your own journey to success. Hopefully you will find a solution for yourself, I keep my fingers crossed. How will you know?

The real winner needs to be aware the reality of the start in the race. It is easier seeing other person, taking your challenge. So what can you learn? Firstly, you need to understand the idea of self-improvement correctly. Secondly – decide if you want to follow it.

Kate was wandreing how to set her goals properly. She has been talking to her friends, co-workers anc customers. Everybody has given her some advice, according to their own life experience. but Kate needed something independent, something already proved and really working.

Fortunately, she is the Internet lover. So she has started to check self-help pages. What was the result? Just after some days of hard work she has encounetred the following description by Amie Erickson :

“For people who are through it, they can tell you that self improvement is a journey. It all depends on where one is starting from. The most necessary thing but is getting that first step out of the way. Self improvement comes with the fulfillment that comes from understanding oneself. It is through this understanding that you get to grasp your house within the universe and your role here.

You can understand that not everything has got to be a struggle; you can achieve success, made and happy and fulfill your mission.” And what is your definition of self-improvement, do you agree with Amie Erickson?

“That’s it!” – she exclaimed. “I have had vauge ideas about self-improvement so far. Now I will be able to accomplish my goals easier and more efficiently. But what should I start with? Firstly, let’s check the author’s profile. Is it the reliable site? What is their experience?”How do you check experience and reliability? Are you considered as an expert? In which field of life?

Kate was reading again: “As I have studied self improvement over the years, I’ve got picked out 7 self improvement tips that are a should for you to implement so that you’ll see yourself started on the journey of private growth. I’m going to share them with you in this article….”

Kate was curious about the tips, but has skipped the further reading for a while. The latest client has just appered in her office and her lunch break was also over. But she has decided to test the new idea in her career. her first opportunity is just right now. How can you test - right now – the idea of self-improvement? If you liked today’s post leave your comment below.

Kate was brought up in a difficult family, where alcohol was the criterium of her self-esteem. This year might be the berak-through for her. She is going to change her life dramatically, moving out and separating from toxic environment. But the challenge is very tough. Kate needs good advisors to review her decisions.

So far she has found that her life might be different, happier and accrding to her will. But awareness is not enough to succeed. Kate is still struggling with her old beliefs, learned since her early childhood. She is an adult now, able to take control over her decisions and actions taken.

What can she do? The first thing is to know where exactly sie is, right now. She took a piece of paper and is writing:
“5 years ago I graduated with an excellent grade. I have my business, it is my passion and I start making money on my career. But what else could I achieve in my professional career this year? Is the profit really satisfying?
Well, I need more loyal customers and to cooperate more efficiently with my partners and suppliers. How much better? If I assoume that I will double my results, I nned to pull the sleeves off and work more. What can I do to use my present energy level but pursue the goal.
Yeah, maybe I want too much now, but indeed I might set less challenging goals. Pursuing my goals this year nothing will be left for the next period of time. And I focus on career too much. that I want from the life?

I also would like to find this special person, to enjoy the life more and to face my insecurities. Living on a housing estate is not the best idea, my office is too far, some changes are desirable here. But what to do first?”

Help Kate with making the right decisions. If you were on her place, what decisions would you make? Share your ideas under today’s post.