Relationships between different family members can
be another, often painful area or even a taboo. Are
you brave enough to face the truth that you have been
manipulated, while being told that they “love you”?
What about the blackmail in which health or heritage is used? And the general rule: “Anything negative should not be touched as own nest should not be fouled”?
Remember, if reputation for every sake matters, somebody needs it and hates reality. For example, your mother wanted to prove their siblings that her kids are better than theirs. Then she
will use her kids as a tool to accomplish the goal goals. Then, every time they fail to meet her aspirations, ambitions, especially at school or behavior – she will punish them. The worst is that the kids will not be aware of this cruel game.
Think what would happen should any of the children discover
manipulation and bad treatment? Depending on the offspring’s character and the mother’s self-esteem, scenarios may vary.
Both open war in which someone will win and the kid’s revenge, subtle but also cruel, are possible. It may also happen that the kid will force the mother to admit and apologize for her acts, without fierce maliciousness. Whatever happens, their life will not
be the same anymore.
If, unfortunately, they don’t recognize manipulation, she will use the unfortunate kids until her death, of course changing the methods (now the right job and spouse will provide her with sufficient wealth for keeping up the Joneses). When she dies, the offspring may notice that the world can be different then this they have been living so far, discovering the deception. Frustrated because of the time lost, they may easily start drinking, taking drugs or become violent, just because of no self-awareness or courage to assert
their rights.
Controversial, isn’t it? For so many years you have been taught that family is a church and should not be touched, criticized… because it is a family. But sadly, it is often the most common place of subtle manipulation, abuse, inner destruction, often reaching more than one generations.
Share your opinion with us under this post. Probably you know more interesting cases. I don’t mean detailed and actual presentation, with real personal data. An outline is enough to highlight the issue. In this way you will be able to help many people who are not aware of the danger.
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